praying for your man

If I am being real honest, I don't always think before I speak. I also don't think about how my words will be taken. If they are welcomed, or even wanted, but sometimes I just speak what I think. More often than not, I have to regrettably admit that when I speak it is often a nag, or a passive aggressive (sometimes just plain aggressive) comment on something that needs to be fixed, or pointing out something I don't like. I can be quick to be ugly and to speak off raw emotion. Not thinking before speaking. 

I can be honest and tell you those don't turn out to be the most beneficial moments for my relationship, or my man.

Luke 6:45 says For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.

That is a heart check for me. If my mouth speaks discouraging remarks, what is my heart full of?

A favorite way for me to realign my heart and my mind is prayer. 

What would  my heart be full of if I am praying intentionally for my man? What would my words look like if my heart is full because I am praying for my man?

I love to pray specific intentional prayers when I pray. So I began a search to find some great prayers. Most of what I found when I searched was praying for your husband and praying for your future husband. 

I think that is great, but it made me start to think. What about just praying for your man no matter what the stage of your relationship was? Praying for a man as your future husband when you are just barely getting to know each other, or are just in the early stages of dating, seems like it won't be great for your heart and mind. We as women get ideas in our minds and sometimes run with them. I don't want to discourage you if you are praying for your man as your future husband, but I will say that it may warp your mindset. You may begin to believe that The Lord provided that man as your future spouse and be praying for such, when that may not be how The Lord has planned it. This can in the end not be great for your mind, emotions, and heart.

 Praying for your man is great, but we need to have the right motives and mindset. 

What about just praying for your man, just for your man? Placing yourself, your wants, and your desires aside, and just pray with the motive that The Lord would move in his life and bless him. 

I wanted to provide you with some great intentional specific prayers for your man. Prayers you can pray no matter if you are just getting to know each other, or if you have been married for 50 years. Whether you are like me and you don't think before you speak and sometimes say not so great things to your man, or you always think and only say encouraging words (bless you if that's you, awesome self control!) These are some great prayers for your man. 

(these were taken from prayer guides given to me over the years that I have taken and made my own)

As _____ faces another day of challenges, reveal your deep love to him. Cast out all his fears, worries, and doubts. May your peace that surpasses all understanding rule in his heart.

         

   Thank you for daily bearing _______ burdens. Remind him that you uphold him physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Refresh him constantly with a sense of your presence, strength, and peace.

    

       Lord, remind _____ of your deep and personal knowledge of him and assure him that he can pour out his heart honestly to you. May his walk with you be a true intimate connection that helps strengthen his spirit. Reveal yourself to him so that he can know and worship you as you are.

   

  Thank you that you live in and reveal truth to __________. Thank you for letting him be sensitive to your call and lead on his life. Teach him to live in your power, motivated and filled by your spirit. May he stain step with your spirit, listening to your voice and following your lead. Spirit lead.

          Lord show _____ how valuable he is to you. May he know where his truth worth and value comes from.

      

        Cultivate in _____ a diligence and desire to do his best for you, Lord. Establish the works of his hands and grant him success. I pray you close and open doors that direct him into roles best suited for his gifts, talents, personality, and calling.

       

       Lord as _____ prepares one day to be the leaders of his home as you have called him, help him to serve you and not money. Enable him to rest in your provision.

      

         Strengthen _____ with faith and patience in the difficulties he faces. Assure him that you are with him and are working all things together for good.

        

               Lord protect _____ from temptations he faces today, especially concerning _______ teach him to guard what enters his mind and heart and to stay focused on you, resisting the enemy by faith.

        

          Satan would try and twist ______ God given desire for sex into something ugly. Prompt him to turn to you for safety and freedom from lust, sexual temptations, and inappropriate relationships. Let him find acceptance, security, and satisfaction in you with within the context of his future marriage.

        

          Thank you Father for leading ______ as he interacts with and leads others today and at home, work and in the community. Enable him to set a good example for and love those under his care. Keep shaping him into the leader you have called him and created him to be.

        

         

     Lord give _____ the courage to share his innermost thoughts and feelings with me. Grant me the grace and patience to listen with acceptance and to share honestly with him.

     

       Bring ______ friends with who he can share his joys and his struggles. Friends who speak boldly with him and remind him of your love and power. Show him how to be a good friend in return.

  

        Give ____ courage and opportunities to share your love with others in words and in actions. When people frustrate him, help him to respond calmly in humility and peace. When he sins against others or is sinned against, guide him to ask and grant forgiveness. May those who interact with him see You in him.

      

  Keep ____ safe and healthy. Teach him to care for his body.

   

            Father, show _______ his true purpose for living, especially in areas that seem stale and lacking.  May Paul’s claim to live as Christ always be true for him. Continue to open and close doors that lead him to his calling.

         

(the following are a little more couple specific) 

     Lord on his own ______ cannot fulfill your desire for him to love me as you love the Church. But you are love and you live in him. Teach him us how to love like you have loved us.

      

           Teach us how to address things that hinder our relationship and help us work through our differences with compassion and gentleness. Enable us to rejoice and encourage each other as well.

        

      Let us always treat each other with the utmost respect. Help us speak truth in love by honestly and openly sharing our thoughts and feelings with each other. Deliver us from jealousy, pride, rudeness, selfishness, and thoughtlessness. Grant us a love that always protects, trusts, hopes, and perseveres.

        

       

           Heal the emotional wounds that threaten to create strife in our relationship. May we lay them broken at the foot of the cross. Make us sensitive to each other’s needs and enable us to ministry to one another in areas of hurt. Burden us to continually and intentionally pray for each other.

      

         Give us hearts to seek and serve you above all else. May our first and original relationship with you not suffer. May we grow our individual relationship with you so our relationship together will grow stronger.

        

   Thank you that you know our needs before we even know what we need. Train us to be content in whatever state we are in and make us good stewards of what you have entrusted to us. May we be patient with you and each other during the tough times.

         

 Guide us and teach us to fully obey your word. Help us to build our lives as individuals and relationships on your truth. 

Here are some more other great ones that I have pulled from this awesome blog Love Her Wild  

( https://loveherwild.wordpress.com/2015/02/26/a-prayer-for-my-future-husband/ )

I pray that he is a prayer warrior, & not a worrier.

I pray that he is brave like Jonathan.

I pray that he leads with grace and love.

I pray that he obeys God like Abraham.

I pray that his love for Christ is so strong that is radiates through every crevice of his being.

I didn't number them but if you were keeping count (or just wanted to know) there are 28 specific prayers listed. 

How great would it be if you even just took 1 a day and prayed these for your man for 28 days?

 How different would our conversations look?

 How different would our relationships look? 

How rewarding would it be to see The Lord working in his life as you are praying for him?

So I challenge you, whether you are in the getting to know each other stage, a new couple, been dating for years, courting, engaged, or married, start today and take the next 28 days to pray specifically for your man.  Whatever that may look like for you, take these and make them your own. Feel free to add and to take away. Maybe you have a friend (or two) you can share this with and together you can be praying for your men.

I pray that The Lord blesses you these next 28 days.