Proverbs 31:30 charm is deceitful and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears The Lord is to be praised.

I get asked on many occasions if I think before I speak, Maybe that's a sign that I should start to think before I speak, however my response usually is, "no, I like to be just a surprised and entertained at what comes out of my mouth as you are."  I  mean, who doesn't like surprises? 

That being said,  I may be just as surprised as you by what gets written in this post.

Something that has been on my heart for a long time, but more heavily this past week is the world vs The Word in regards to being a woman. 

When God created woman, because after days of creation and 7 times saying "it is good" He found something that WASN'T good.. for man to be alone. 

Now the key thing there is that God doesn't give Adam Eve right then and there. He could have, I mean HELLO he is God. King of ALL creation. But he waits, which is a whole nother blog post. So skipping to the point where God does create Eve for Adam, look at what it says

Genesis 2:21 So The Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs. 

In the worst of my mother "He jacked the dudes rib" 

V22 and the rib that The Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. 

God didn't make the woman from dust like He did the man. 

That there, leads me into my point... The worth of a woman, as The Word says. 

The reason the woman was created was because God did not like that the man was alone. We are a very special creation. The Word tells us we are made for the man. the world tells us we ARE the mans. 

Let me type out the list here that I jotted down in my notes...

 We are, as woman

*an investment not a sacrifice

*worth preparation not just promises

*a gift not a commodity 

*fearfully and wonderfully made! not a mistake

We are also made with very special hearts. We are made for relationships, that is a thumbprint of God on our heart. So many have a desire to marry and I think that concept has been so stolen and destroyed from its original purpose and meaning. 

A marriage between a man and wife is to glorify God. Before a woman can become a kingdom wife that will stimulate not stifle her husbands walk with God is first, she has to figure out her worth in Christ as a single and as a woman. 

Side note, I love Lysa Terkhuerst and all of the many wise things she allows The Lord to use her for. 

But one of my favorite quotes from her is that "no person profession position or possession can ever fill the cup of an empty wounded heart, that is a cup only God can fill" and she is SO true.

But that brings us back to fighting what the world says, that a man can fix all my problems. When I find the right man it'll alllll be okay.

Just FYI for those of you that still believe that, it's a load of crock... 

But because of that load of crock, women search for a husband and all they want is to get married. Our Disney movies and fairly tales tell us so. Movies and society continue to fester that wound as we grow into our teenage years. Pinterest feeds our lust for marriage as young adults. 

Beloved, let me tell you this. No man can ever love you the right way because of the way you have been designed. Our ultimate love is to come from God. You are worthy of more than ONLY the love of an earthly man, and marriage isn't the answer to ANY of your problems. It will never make you feel complete. You know what I bet sucks more than being lonely, having somebody that you can call your husband and share a life with but still feeling more lonely that you ever did before. Once that happens you will be that quarrelsome wife that is talked about in Proverbs 27 & 21. I think a lot of women today need to figure out their worth and who they are in Christ, so that when the chance arises to be a help meet for somebody, they are equipped and prepared to Glorify God as a kingdom wife. 

"A woman is not born a woman nor does she become a women when she marries a man, bears a child, and does their dirty linen, not even when she joins a women's liberation movement --- A woman becomes a woman when she becomes what God wants her to be." -Lady in Waiting

We don't become a woman when we can finally wear lace underwear, put on whatever makeup we choose, purchase push up bras, and wear low rise jeans or high heels. Those are all worldly things that the world mistakes for beauty and womanhood. 

BUT The Word tell us something different about who we are and what we should be concerned with. What makes a godly woman that turns into a Kingdom Wife

"Do not let your adorning be external the braiding of hair and the putting on of jewelry or the clothing you wear but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the IMPERISHABLE beauty of a gentle quiet spirit which in God's sight is very precious." 1 Peter 3:3-4

 "Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain but a woman who fears The Lord is to be praised." Proverbs 31:30

"A wife of noble character is her husbands crown" Proverbs 12:4

"Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from The Lord" Proverbs 19:14

And Proverbs 31:10-31 tells us all about what that looks like.

So I urge you to ask yourself the same question I have asked myself this week, "what is a wife?" And answer it according to what The Word says. Not what the world says.

A wife is not somebody to keep the kitchen busy and the bedroom even busier, and the road between the two hot. Not something to complete a man but to compliment him. Not quarrelsome but prudent and noble. Not a sacrifice but and investment. Not stifling but stimulating in his faith & walk. Not a commodity,  but a gift from God, fearfully and wonderfully made, worth more than just empty promises and words. 

In today's society when there is a battle with the world vs The Word, many let the world win. But beloved I urge you to hold fast to the truth. Taste and see that the word of The Lord is good, and soak in all he has to say about you as a woman. As His daughter. 

You are worthy. Worthy of more than starving yourself, coloring your hair, skin, and nails, and shopping to be what the world says is beautiful. You are worthy of an in-explainable love given by a savior who died on the cross to know & have your heart.

For God IS love. An Unwavering love. (1 John 4:16)

-B

1 Peter 5:8 for that enemy of yours, the devil, roams around like a lion roaring [in fierce hunger], seeking someone to seize upon and devour

Yesterday listening to a sermon on the radio, this information was shared:

 

"The giraffe gives birth standing up, so the first thing that happens to a new-born giraffe is a fall of about 10 feet.

Still dazed, the baby tries to stand up on its four legs, but its mother behaves very strangely: she gives the baby giraffe a gentle kick which sends it sprawling. It tries to get up, stands, and is again knocked down to remind the baby how it got up the first time.

This process is repeated several times, until the new-born giraffe is too exhausted to stand. At that point, the mother kicks it again, forcing it to get to its feet. After that, she does not push the baby giraffe over again.

The explanation is simple: in order to survive predators, the first lesson a giraffe must learn is to get to its feet quickly."

To survive the predators, that prowl and would love to devour a baby giraffe, it must get to its feet quickly. 

Funny how that was a story used as an illustration in a sermon. I always wonder where these pastors and speaks find this crazy stories and how they even relate, but this story as crazy as it is has a very clear message.

Lately I've sort of felt like that baby giraffe. Each time I get to my feet and feel like I'm finally standing okay, I'm knocked back down. 

Feeling frustrated, strained, and confused I gather the strength to stand back to my feet and not sit defeated or quit. Even though I would be lying if in the quietness of my heart I think about just quitting and staying down. All the while wondering why why why does this keep happening. 

Hearing this story made me think of the scripture in 1 Peter 

Be well balanced (temperate, sober of mind), be vigilant and cautious at all times; for that enemy of yours, the devil, roams around like a lion roaring [in fierce hunger], seeking someone to seize upon and devour. (1 Peter 5:8 AMP)

The Lord wants me to be able to get back to my feet quick, and He is conditioning me to do so, because if I don't get to my feet quickly (just like the baby giraffe that has to keep up with the pack) the predator in my life would love to devour me. 

If you feel knocked down, don't stay down. Get up quickly, and keep moving. 

Ephesians 3:20 To Him be the glory

At 2:01 on August 25, 2014, what would be my first day of my 2nd year of teaching, I lie restless. With mixed feelings. Mixed thoughts. Mixed emotions. 

After not writing in weeks, not wanting to pick up pen paper ipad anything, I get the nudge to write.

Like I normally do with my journal open, I flip pages praying that something jumps off the pages from the past and grabs my attention.

Tonight it did. 

February 15, 2014

"Because the Father has given ME full sufficiency in Him alone, as a thank you, I need to fulfill my ONE purpose to be used and spend every bit of my mental, nervous, and spiritual energy to disciple men and women to The Lord Jesus Christ. I am to do this no matter where I am. Church, classroom, or work."  

The joy of this is that I found these words after writing...

"Because sometimes, just sometimes, The Lord has to open the door to allow things into your life to remind you that you, you aren't I'm control and that no matter how hard you try you will never be able to plan it all out, and you won't ever have it all figured out. 

That something can be something awful bad or it could be awful good. I'm a firm believer The Lord has a sense of humor, but I'm even firmer believer that He knows what's best. So no 10 year 5 year or 1 year plan you could ever imagine will come to be. Some of it might, but most of it won't. Scripture tells is that there is nothing that can ever separate us from the perfect love of The Father, and because of that He has great plans for us that are FAR greater than anything our imperfect human minds could imagine. 

He knows best. His ways are higher.

To the one who can and will do immeasurably more, to HIM be the glory (Eph 3:20)." 

I find so much comfort in both of these, and I love as I sit here asking why to many things that just don't make sense in any way, The Lord has given me the answers right here, and both start with the word "because" 

Praying that this meets you where you are. Praying that you aren't also awake at 2:15 am seeking and searching, but if you are know that He has a plan.

To Him be the glory.

B

Isaiah 43:1 You are mine.

<sup>Pray for a clear heart, and a clear mind. Ask what The Lord needs to reveal to you, and jump on in the boat for the story.


John 21
3</sup> Simon Peter said to them, “I am going fishing.” They said to him, “We will go with you.” They went out and got into the boat, but that night they caught nothing.
⁴ Just as day was breaking, Jesus stood on the shore; yet the disciples did not know that it was Jesus. ⁵ Jesus said to them, “Children, do you have any fish?” They answered him, “No.” ⁶ He said to them, “Cast the net on the right side of the boat, and you will find some.” So they cast it, and now they were not able to haul it in, because of the quantity of fish. ⁷ That disciple whom Jesus loved therefore said to Peter, “It is the Lord!” When Simon Peter heard that it was the Lord, he put on his outer garment, for he was stripped for work, and threw himself into the sea. ⁸ The other disciples came in the boat, dragging the net full of fish, for they were not far from the land, but about a hundred yards^[a] off.
⁹ When they got out on land, they saw a charcoal fire in place, with fish laid out on it, and bread. ¹⁰ Jesus said to them, “Bring some of the fish that you have just caught.” ¹¹ So Simon Peter went aboard and hauled the net ashore, full of large fish, 153 of them. And although there were so many, the net was not torn.
¹² Jesus said to them, “Come and have breakfast.” Now none of the disciples dared ask him, “Who are you?” They knew it was the Lord. ¹³ Jesus came and took the bread and gave it to them, and so with the fish. ¹⁴ This was now the third time that Jesus was revealed to the disciples after he was raised from the dead.

Jesus and Peter

¹⁵ When they had finished breakfast, Jesus said to Simon Peter, “Simon, son of John, do you love me more than these?”


Now for those of you that have read this story a time or two (thousand because it is often used to talk about the different types of love) know that there is more to it. 

But I am stopping right there. At that last word. These.

These

T͟Hēz/ Plural form of this

So in this story, the these or this Jesus is referring to is the 153 fish Peter caught that day. Those fish which required a lot of time and a lot of effort because He had been fishing a while that day. He had fished, and he had fished, and caught nothing. Then, he cast his net out again and caught a net "full of large fish, 153 of them." I do believe this is a fisherman's dream. 153 large fish all together in one net, in one swoop. Can you imagine Peter's excitement here? 

Ladies, I know that whole fish reference may have just passed you by and you cannot understand why 153 large smelly fish are exciting. So bear with me. Think of the one thing that would make you more excited than anything. What is your number one want right now?

Peter wanted those fish, bad. So think about that one thing you want, bad. 

Jesus asked him, do you love me more than these 153 large fish you really badly wanted?

Because I don't know what your "these" may be that God might be asking you do you love Him more than, I am going to replace that word with "fish." Don't get distracted though. I'm sure you love God more than you love fish. but there is something significant in your life that you really want and God is trying to have you stop focusing on it and turn fully and whole-heartedly back to Him. 

Your fish may be the craving for a new job, a bigger pay check, a husband, a new job, a baby, or something more. 

At times we get so focused on the fish in our life that we lose sight of God. We forget who we are and whose we are. It is so easy to get distracted these days living in a world where the focus is always on the next big thing.

I want to pull in some more scripture from Isaiah 43 that can be a great help for turning that focus from the fish Jesus is asking, do you love HIM more or that? 

Isaiah 43:1 says that He who created you, and formed you says "you are mine." The rest of 43 goes on to say that He will never leave you nor forsake you, that no matter what you go through He will be there. 

Jesus wants to know if you love Him more than your fish, because He knows that when you pass through the waters He will stay with you, not your fish. He is trying to assure you that if you go through any sort of waters in your life, your fish will be gone. 

Fish (remember your these) in the water (trials of any kind in life) are gone. They cannot sustain you. 

So just as Jesus was asking Peter, which do you love more those fish, or me, He is asking you the same thing.

If you get nothing really from this, let The Lord whisper this in your life

"Do you love me more than these? (John 21:15) Because you don't belong to those things. I created you. I formed you. You are mine (Isaiah 43:1). Your identity is not found in that thing you want really badly that you may or may not have. Nothing can come close to how much I love you and nothing else can ever define your identity like I can. Remember that. You are mine."

 

  

Isaiah 55:8 For my thoughts are not your thoughts neither are you waysmy ways, declares The Lord.

This time next week I will be in Concord, NC attending the SheSpeaks2014 Conference. Those few short days are packed full of trainings, teachings, workshops, worship, and fellowship to help me sharpen the writing and speaking skills The Lord has blessed me with. That being said, I (knowing this when I registered back in early 2014) am to take with me a writing piece to have peer edited. As I have been praying, thinking, searching, and re-reading my old posts, I feel led to write a brand new post to take with me. So as you read this, I ask that you join in prayer for my time next weekend.



When you put God in a box, and He puts you in Franklin.

Let me share with you a little background before I share with you the heart of the story.

I graduated high school in four years, then went off to attend college. At Appalachian State University I spent four years studying Middle Grades Education. At 21 years old I began my career as a teacher. At 22 I began my career in ministry.

I know, that is a lot of life covered in four short sentences, but the backstory is not as important as the story story. Keep reading, and you will see how that little snapshot is relevant.

In that one year as a Middle School Teacher, I felt called to ministry. I just knew that teaching NC state curriculum was not supposed to be the limit on my teaching. I love to teach, but I wanted to teach a little bit more than 6th grade science.

I also will tell you I knew what that ministry would be too. I would be in Young Adult Women's Ministry working with Middle School age all the way to women in their mid 20s. I was just so sure in my heart of hearts that I was going into ministry, so I was just so sure that is what it would be.

Funny how we can be like that, huh? Maybe it's not you, maybe it's just me. By "that" I mean that we can be so convinced of one thing that we get this false confidence that we know all.

I cannot tell you how many times I prayed specifically for the position I knew The Lord wanted me to be. So much so that I eventually became frustrated with the fact no doors opened. I mean, I was so good at what I was doing. I was so good working with teens and women my own age. People around me commented on how they could see things in my past that had prepared me for that sort of ministry. I eventually put myself in a box, and in a box along side me I placed God.

By "putting God in a box" I mean I forgot how big, powerful, and sovereign He really is.

I told Him what He had prepared me for instead of really having an open mind to what He was preparing me for. I told Him what doors He should open for me. Again, funny how we get like that, huh? That false confidence creeps in and we start telling The Lord what to do.

I had limited my prayers to what I had wanted. I limited what God could do to what I wanted. I put God in a box. Needless to say, in this season of life I have started a career in ministry, but it is not Young Adult Women's Ministry. In this season of life, the Lord has placed me in Children's Ministry. I won't even begin to try to tell you why, or how God place me here. Knowing my tendencies, that false sense of confidence might creep back up if I try to figure it all out.

I put God in a box, and He put me in Franklin.

Hear me when I say that being in Franklin is not a punishment. Children's ministry is not a punishment. God did not scold me for putting Him in a box. He did however prove Himself to me, yet again. He is God, and I am not. He knows what He is doing, I do not. He is not surprised, I am (easily I might add).

He has things in store for me that are far greater than anything I could ever fathom. He has things in store for you that are far greater than anything you could ever imagine!

Join with me to make the decision to not place God in a box, not to shrink Him down and limit our prayers to our wants but pray boldly for The Lord to allow you to be part of what He is blessing.

If you're surprised by what the outcome is, remember that God isn't and His ways are better than ours.

It's only been a few short weeks but I can say that I love that God placed me in Franklin.

-B