I get asked on many occasions if I think before I speak, Maybe that's a sign that I should start to think before I speak, however my response usually is, "no, I like to be just a surprised and entertained at what comes out of my mouth as you are." I mean, who doesn't like surprises?
That being said, I may be just as surprised as you by what gets written in this post.
Something that has been on my heart for a long time, but more heavily this past week is the world vs The Word in regards to being a woman.
When God created woman, because after days of creation and 7 times saying "it is good" He found something that WASN'T good.. for man to be alone.
Now the key thing there is that God doesn't give Adam Eve right then and there. He could have, I mean HELLO he is God. King of ALL creation. But he waits, which is a whole nother blog post. So skipping to the point where God does create Eve for Adam, look at what it says
Genesis 2:21 So The Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs.
In the worst of my mother "He jacked the dudes rib"
V22 and the rib that The Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man.
God didn't make the woman from dust like He did the man.
That there, leads me into my point... The worth of a woman, as The Word says.
The reason the woman was created was because God did not like that the man was alone. We are a very special creation. The Word tells us we are made for the man. the world tells us we ARE the mans.
Let me type out the list here that I jotted down in my notes...
We are, as woman
*an investment not a sacrifice
*worth preparation not just promises
*a gift not a commodity
*fearfully and wonderfully made! not a mistake
We are also made with very special hearts. We are made for relationships, that is a thumbprint of God on our heart. So many have a desire to marry and I think that concept has been so stolen and destroyed from its original purpose and meaning.
A marriage between a man and wife is to glorify God. Before a woman can become a kingdom wife that will stimulate not stifle her husbands walk with God is first, she has to figure out her worth in Christ as a single and as a woman.
Side note, I love Lysa Terkhuerst and all of the many wise things she allows The Lord to use her for.
But one of my favorite quotes from her is that "no person profession position or possession can ever fill the cup of an empty wounded heart, that is a cup only God can fill" and she is SO true.
But that brings us back to fighting what the world says, that a man can fix all my problems. When I find the right man it'll alllll be okay.
Just FYI for those of you that still believe that, it's a load of crock...
But because of that load of crock, women search for a husband and all they want is to get married. Our Disney movies and fairly tales tell us so. Movies and society continue to fester that wound as we grow into our teenage years. Pinterest feeds our lust for marriage as young adults.
Beloved, let me tell you this. No man can ever love you the right way because of the way you have been designed. Our ultimate love is to come from God. You are worthy of more than ONLY the love of an earthly man, and marriage isn't the answer to ANY of your problems. It will never make you feel complete. You know what I bet sucks more than being lonely, having somebody that you can call your husband and share a life with but still feeling more lonely that you ever did before. Once that happens you will be that quarrelsome wife that is talked about in Proverbs 27 & 21. I think a lot of women today need to figure out their worth and who they are in Christ, so that when the chance arises to be a help meet for somebody, they are equipped and prepared to Glorify God as a kingdom wife.
"A woman is not born a woman nor does she become a women when she marries a man, bears a child, and does their dirty linen, not even when she joins a women's liberation movement --- A woman becomes a woman when she becomes what God wants her to be." -Lady in Waiting
We don't become a woman when we can finally wear lace underwear, put on whatever makeup we choose, purchase push up bras, and wear low rise jeans or high heels. Those are all worldly things that the world mistakes for beauty and womanhood.
BUT The Word tell us something different about who we are and what we should be concerned with. What makes a godly woman that turns into a Kingdom Wife
"Do not let your adorning be external the braiding of hair and the putting on of jewelry or the clothing you wear but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the IMPERISHABLE beauty of a gentle quiet spirit which in God's sight is very precious." 1 Peter 3:3-4
"Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain but a woman who fears The Lord is to be praised." Proverbs 31:30
"A wife of noble character is her husbands crown" Proverbs 12:4
"Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from The Lord" Proverbs 19:14
And Proverbs 31:10-31 tells us all about what that looks like.
So I urge you to ask yourself the same question I have asked myself this week, "what is a wife?" And answer it according to what The Word says. Not what the world says.
A wife is not somebody to keep the kitchen busy and the bedroom even busier, and the road between the two hot. Not something to complete a man but to compliment him. Not quarrelsome but prudent and noble. Not a sacrifice but and investment. Not stifling but stimulating in his faith & walk. Not a commodity, but a gift from God, fearfully and wonderfully made, worth more than just empty promises and words.
In today's society when there is a battle with the world vs The Word, many let the world win. But beloved I urge you to hold fast to the truth. Taste and see that the word of The Lord is good, and soak in all he has to say about you as a woman. As His daughter.
You are worthy. Worthy of more than starving yourself, coloring your hair, skin, and nails, and shopping to be what the world says is beautiful. You are worthy of an in-explainable love given by a savior who died on the cross to know & have your heart.
For God IS love. An Unwavering love. (1 John 4:16)
-B
